Rape is not pretty, and we’d rather not look at it. Still, it’s a fact of my life that I was raped. Pretending it didn’t happen or tiptoeing around the details will not change that fact. Why should I have anything to hide? And who does my silence benefit?

I would like to be clear that I am gay, very gay, and I cannot remember a time when I was not gay. I was not molested into homosexuality. My sexual preference was clear to me long before my first time.