raebaeb asked: Hi Janet. My name is Rae and I've messaged you on FB before. I would like to discuss this B. Scott issue with you if possible. I need some clarity on the situation because I cannot see how you find his claim genuine.
Thanks so much for reaching out, and I want you to know that you are not alone in your skepticism. I am dealing with criticism from all sides of the issue for speaking with B. and giving them a space to tell their story [here’s a link to our conversation]. We all deserve that.
For me, I chose to trust B. I didn’t approach B. with skepticism or mistrust in regards to their intentions or timing of their announcement as transgender. I chose as a writer, a trans woman of color and as an activist to be open and to give B. the space to tell their story. I was there to listen, to share and to enlighten as well, and they came into the space doing the same.
Much of our conversation was not printed because part of it was private, and a lot of it was about helping B. understand the many intricacies and sensitivities and struggles of our community. I published the parts I felt were most resonant with people, parts that B. was also comfortable with. I did mention the public’s skepticism in regards to the timing of B.’s announcement (many think B.’s announcement steps on the backs of trans folks and profit off our pain and struggles).
What continues to resonate with me is this constant questioning of B.’s identity, and I wanted to explore our society’s questioning of identities, whether we are trans or cis.
Ultimately, I choose to give B. the benefit of the doubt on their own experience. It is not my place to say they are not being truthful about their experience and road towards self-revelation.
I wanted to have this conversation to hopefully begin healing our many communities. I think there is a legacy of pain, struggle and rage that we as a people have living in us, and I feel this makes it easier for us to view people skeptically and with detachment. I felt it was necessary to practice love and trust B. and embrace B. - ultimately because I know what it is like to be questioned on a daily basis and not to be embraced.
I wanted to act from a place as a storyteller and give B the space to tell their story. I think this is just the first of many conversations we all will have to have publicly and privately and I think time will show B.’s “intentions.”
I’m hopeful, though, and wish for (and work towards) a world where we can all be who we say we are and people will believe and embrace us.
[We can speak privately as well, but I’ve gotten a series of these messages and felt it necessary to address publicly. I can be reached privately at contact(at)janetmock(dot)com]
Sat down with Marc Lamont Hill at HuffPost Live today to discuss The Out List, which airs tonight 6/27 at 930pm EST, and why our movement needs to expand its lens.
So proud to be a small part of this major issue, where I’m called a “hashtag hero” for #girlslikeus. Thanks Amos, Rocco + Original Plumbing family. Elated that I’m also wearing a blouse by trans designer + fellow Hawaii girl Ari of Andy South.
Sidenote: My hair is out of control long and big. <3 curly girls!
TSQ is a new interdisciplinary academic journal that will change the way the world thinks about transgender issues.
Folks, I’m proud to be on the editorial board of this journal, please support this project and share with your networks.
Yes! We need more for us, created by us publications.
I’m tired of being erased from history, pretending that trans women and people of brown/black/red/yellow/etc skins do not matter, don’t have brains and stories and substance and identities and loves and lives that should be elevated.
This erasure is violent and dangerous and needs to change. We as a LGBTQIA community can not let this just go on. We can’t take crumbs and say, “Well they covered us, right? Look they have Santiago Cortes in the piece + he mentions a drag queen in his Ivy League essays!” No, we must say:
"Cover us in all our glorious intersections and diversities or LEAVE US ALONE. We’ll tell our own stories."
An interview I did with TakePart about the “controversy” surrounding covering transition costs for trans inmates, including hormone therapy and yes, gender-confirmation surgeries.
Janet is among those who are fighting for change. Key to this, she believes, is allowing some “shades of grey” in how we view people.
"People can’t really be put into boxes," she says. "We need to get away from just category, and we have to allow people who were in one to move into the next category, [to] respect their right to self-determine." That also means, she adds, allowing those who have no need to identify as either male or female to be "fine to be somewhere in the middle of the spectrum".
"I’m very female, whatever that means. But I respect someone who is not and needs to draw outside of the lines a little bit."
I’m a believer in the power of the written word. Today, I got to see my name alongside two of the women whose work guide me: Sylvia Rivera and Marsha P. Johnson.
We got to chat about our work as “communicators,” our online lives and the legacy of Sylvia, whose work lives on with SRLP10. If you haven’t gotten your tickets yet, please do so, and if you can’t make it to this legendary bash, be sure to contribute whatever you can to their fundraising drive.
"Y’all better quiet down!"
If you missed yesterday’s It Gets Better Google+ Hangout, here’s the trans* discussion I moderated with Andy Marra, Tiq Milan and Noah Ryan. Minor tech hiccups at the start, but I promise it’s fun, fast & informative!
All hangouts can be viewed at http://itgetsbetter.org/hangout.