I’m Daphne. I’m a black, gay trans woman trying to survive the biggest adventure of my life.
Growing up mixed - not knowing if I should tell people whether I was black or white - only got more complicated when I realized I also didn’t know if I should tell people I was a boy, or be honest and tell them I was a girl. Exploring and understanding my identity and self was interrupted by a few years of living entirely closeted while doing missionary work with my family in Russia. Once back in the US, I was able to strike out on my own and discover the woman I always have been and start creating a safe space for me to be myself openly and freely for the rest of my life.
With the help of my adopted big sister, I was able to venture out into the world for the first time in February of 2014 and I finally got to show the world the woman they should have known a lot sooner. I am transitioning, learning, and chronicling my journey on twitter and tumblr while trying to survive the people who don’t want to see trans women happy and thriving. Sometimes, I might falter, but I know the strength of my trans sisters and my protective, amazingly supportive big sister are going to carry me through to a place of happiness and safety.
I know that and I know who I am.
I am Daphne: a writer, princess, sister, daughter, and fearless.
I Am #RedefiningRealness.
These stories give me life. I love every single one. Thank you for sharing your greatness with me!
"Get it the fuck together!" I need this panic button in my life.
I hope my appearance on The Colbert Report pushes the conversation forward, specifically in media, to respect the freedom of all of us to define ourselves.
Upworthy shares my video on “passing” from my Redefining Realness interview series.
You can watch them all here: http://janetmock.com/videos
Trans people are exactly who they say they are. No matter what the culture or media would lead us to believe. ~ @JanetMock
Self-definition and self-determination for all.
I’m all about trans visibility but are we really applauding Barney’s trans campaign after their public anti-black racism? Glaring issue for me, and maybe it’s only glaring for me b/c I exist at the intersection of black & trans.
We cannot erase their racism and racial profiling just because they elevate our trans-ness. No, it does not work that way, especially when I know if a black trans girl walks in that store, she will be followed.
For the record: The Barney’s campaign is not something I will openly celebrate.
With the support of community members, the Redefining Realness Storygiving Campaign ordered 127 books to low-income transgender people.
Am grateful to the 69 people who chipped in to fulfill 127 book orders from community members who didn’t have the financial means to afford Redefining Realness.
It’s an exhibition of our agency as a community to lift one another up.